Age: 26
Relationship Status: Single
Occupation: Operations Coordinator
Income: $65,000
Astrological Sign: Libra
What is the first thing you do when you wake up?
Unfortunately, check my phone. It’s one of my habits I’d love to change.
Have you ever felt genuine fulfillment? When?
Yes. Anytime my baby nephew is in my arms, I feel so much gratitude and love that I could burst! Watching him grow is one of the brightest areas of my life.
What is your most repetitive, negative thought?
That I will never be loved romantically. I’m scared I’ll never find someone who is capable of loving me and loving me well.
What is your most repetitive, positive thought?
That life always has something good waiting for us right around the corner. I almost expect good news from the Universe.
What is one thing that surprised you about adulthood?
How hard it can be to find joy. It must come from within, you are responsible for making life feel good. We have to make things special for ourselves!
What are three things you want to put every woman onto?
Sleeping on bamboo sheets
Spend 3-5 months without seeking male validation or connection. It changed my life.
For every self-critical thought, immediately say three things you like about yourself! (And say these things OUT LOUD)
Rank the following from most to least important:
money, food, sex, love, and laughter (feel free to explain or don’t).
Love- builds a foundation. We cannot survive without being loved.
Laughter- we should all be laughing more! Our faces SHOULD have smile lines by our mid-twenties.
Food- damn. Sharing a great meal with family & friends? Top tier experience
Money- we all deserve to live a life of financial abundance
Sex- ehh, take it or leave it. I have never had an experience that blew me away.
How has your relationship with your parents/ guardians changed in adulthood?
My parents and I have experienced the privilege of becoming friends. They are no longer an authority figure to me. They are truly my best friends. It’s been a pleasure to learn about them as human beings who aren’t just “mom and dad.” I appreciate them so much!
When do you feel most like yourself?
Around my mom, aunt, and/ or my best friends from childhood. I can completely let loose and release all fears of judgment. It’s refreshing to remove your mask and speak without thinking so hard.
What is the best compliment someone has ever given you?
When I got divorced (it was heartbreaking,) I made the decision to completely avoid any drama with my ex. A woman 20 years older than me pulled me aside to tell me I was an inspiration to her and her friend group. She truly acknowledged the pain of taking the high road and applauded me for being so graceful and maintaining my dignity. Instead of offering me unsolicited advice, she told me how proud of my character I should be. I sobbed happy tears for days. Sometimes we just need to feel seen.
How do you feel about falling in love?
I am both intrigued by and afraid of love. When I love, I see the world through rose-colored glasses. Love requires a commitment to emotional vulnerability. You surrender your feelings to another person, knowing that will either last forever or eventually end. Eek!
What is one thing you’re sick of hearing?
That I’ll learn how to trust again. If you’ve ever experienced a devastating breach of trust from someone you loved, you know how frustrating that line is!
How often do you feel alone?
It comes in waves. Sunday is a lonely day of the week.
What is one thing you hope everyone experiences in their lifetime?
An indestructible support system of friends and family. People in their corner who walk beside them, stand in front of them and stand behind them. To be seen and heard by the ones they love most!
What is one thing you hope no one has to experience in their lifetime?
I hope no one experiences losing their lust and zest for life.
What is the best decision you’ve ever made?
To leave my marriage. While painful and uncomfortable, I learned so much. I was a shell of a person before my divorce. I am so proud of my resilience and commitment to becoming more “me.” I feel more empowered and unstoppable than ever.
When do you feel most at ease?
Saturday mornings, sipping coffee with my parents while petting my dog. I look forward to it all week.
What does having a successful life mean to you?
To me, having a successful life means taking risks, loving others without measure, completing acts of service for someone who could never repay you, smiling at strangers and babies every chance you get, becoming authentically yourself, soaking in the sunshine, taking the hit and bouncing back, prioritizing loved ones over ANYTHING else. You can’t take it with you when you go. A successful life should feel like a warm spring day when you’re so full of excitement and really appreciate the colors, and blooms of the season.
How often do you think about your body?
Not as often as I used to. As cliche as it sounds, the moment I made a decision to stop negative self-talk, I lost the weight I wanted to. I truly believe releasing those resentful feelings gave me the ability to release unwanted weight. I think of my body with admiration now. I’m eternally thankful to have a healthy body. I can still do round-offs and block a kill!!
When do you ask for help?
When I’m at my absolute wit's end and on the verge of a total breakdown. I am cautious about being a burden to others, even though they never make me feel that way. Sigh.
What is something you feel strongly about?
Caring so much about how others live their life that you’d infringe on their lifestyle or try to regulate their decisions. Don’t like abortions? Great, don’t get one. Don’t like gay marriage? Great, marry someone of the opposite sex. It infuriates me that people cannot let others just BE, particularly when other's choices aren’t impacting them whatsoever.
BONUS: Tell me something good.
My dog is peacefully snoring next to me right now. I got her when I was 18. I am sure I wasn’t the best dog mom at first. Now, she is sleeping soundly right by me, in the house just her & I share. I’ve been loved by this dog my entire adulthood!
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