#95. fertility challenges, trusting your gut & being truly unique

Age: 37… but mentally, 29

Relationship Status: happily married (so blessed)

Occupation: Health Coach 

Income: this year has been a challenge, I’ve taken a big step back from work. Working on building it back up. 

Astrological Sign: Capricorn sun. Virgo rising. Sagittarius moon. 

What is the first thing you do when you wake up?

I mean, realistically…, I go to the bathroom, lol. But after that, I’ve gotten into a good flow with meditation followed by movement of some kind (yoga or walking outside in the sunshine) BEFORE I touch my phone. 

Have you ever felt genuine fulfillment? When?

Oh yes. When I used to teach movement and felt the energy and happiness radiate from my students. Seeing my coaching clients CRUSH their goals and gain confidence in themselves. Anytime I listen and trust my intuition and it proves me right. 

What is your most repetitive, negative thought? 

God…this is something I’ve been working on for a long time. It usually starts with “If I could only go back in time and do it differently,” but I’ve learned that that does NOT serve me in any way and honestly contributed to years of depression. 

What is your most repetitive, positive thought?

You’ve fucking got this. You are here for a reason. You’re going to share this healing story with the world, and you are unstoppable.. keep going even though it’s fucking hard. 

What is one thing that surprised you about adulthood?

You have the ability to do ABSOLUTELY ANYTHING you want with your life. No rules, no real judgment but your own. And I was so used to structure my entire childhood, so that was a hard thing to really grasp. Plus, there is no manual for adulthood lol. We’re all figuring it out as we go. 

What are three things you want to put every woman onto? 

1. Meditation. 

2. Realizing YOU are in CONTROL of every thought you have and action you take. 

3. Putting your phone outside of the bedroom when you sleep… I promise it will dramatically change your mental health and your sleep. 

Rank the following from most to least important: 

money, food, sex, love, and laughter (feel free to explain or don’t). 

Love. Laughter. Food. Money… sex. Am I weird? Lmao. 

How has your relationship with your parents/ guardians changed in adulthood? 

My Dad has become one of my most kindred spirits. We’ve both experienced a lot of spiritual change in our lives, and we have the most beautiful, judgment-free conversations. We’re constantly learning and sharing with each other, and I cherish every moment we have together. 

My mom continues to be one of my biggest life lessons. We love each other, but we do butt heads, and I think it’s because we both believe our views are correct, and even though they can be different, they are often coming from the same place. 

I remember realizing at one point in early adulthood that my parents were just people living their own life experiences and doing their best, and they didn’t always have the answers… and that changed my perspective a lot.  

When do you feel most like yourself?

When I’m dancing, laughing, relaxing…eating yummy, delicious food. Traveling and learning new experiences. When I’m playing with my nieces and nephew (only borderline obsessed). 

What is the best compliment someone has ever given you?

That I’ve made an impact on their life for the better. That I’ve helped them with their confidence in their bodies. That my classes were the best they had ever taken, and they miss them. That I hold space for them. 

How do you feel about falling in love?

My relationship with my husband is one of the purest loves I’ve ever experienced. He is so supportive and has truly shown me the meaning of unconditional love this year. I think love is something everyone deserves to experience, but often, that love starts with the love you give yourself- and that energy radiates. I don’t believe everything will always be perfect in a relationship- there are ebbs and flows and ups and downs in life- but when you find that person you trust with your life, safety, and heart- that is just pure magic. Embrace it. Put time and energy into it just like you would every other goal in your life. Cherish it. Don’t take it for granted. 

What is one thing you’re sick of hearing?

That I’m so strong. 

How often do you feel alone?

Multiple times a day. I never was very religious, but I’ve had this overwhelming feeling and leaning into the thought that God’s got me in this journey… and truly, it is the one thing that makes me feel less alone in those shitty moments. 

What is one thing you hope everyone experiences in their lifetime? 

For God’s sake, please travel. Get outside of your hometown. See the world. Experience another culture. It is one of the most eye-opening, beautiful experiences you’ll ever have. It shifts your perspective on what you have and can be grateful for so much. It truly enriches my life. 

What is one thing you hope no one has to experience in their lifetime?

I find that so hard to answer. I hope I never have to experience my lack of freedom of movement/control over my body. That terrifies me. But some things I HAVE experienced that I wouldn’t wish on anyone: a serious health diagnosis, depression, fertility challenges, losing a best friend to suicide at a young age. Fucking all heartbreaking. 

What is the best decision you’ve ever made? 

To leave my corporate job. And to marry my husband. 

When do you feel most at ease?

When I’m on vacation, with nothing to worry about but what time I’m going to the beach. And usually in the early morning hours when no one is bothering me because I’m an early bird. I find that hour to myself to be so extremely peaceful. 

What does having a successful life mean to you? 

(Finally) learning to trust your gut. Make decisions. ACT on what you want. Doing what makes you happy because life is too fucking short. And pursuing your passions…all things I’m still working on. 

How often do you think about your body?

Every day. Don’t we all? Lately I’ve just been in such amazement of it and all it’s done to support me. Trying to do a better job at listening to it when it gives me signs it needs attention and not burning myself out (I’m so over hustle culture, it’s toxic). 

When do you ask for help?

I find it very difficult to vocalize asking for help. This year has been really humbling. 

What is something you feel strongly about?

Trusting your gut (seems to be a recurring answer here lol). Making decisions because they feel RIGHT to you, and not out of fear/wanting to please others. And eating well/moving your body. 

BONUS: Tell me something good. 

In the words of my mentor Marie Forleo… EVERYTHING is figure-outable. You are truly a unique blueprint put here in this world for a reason. Don’t let anyone dim your light.