Age: 27
Relationship Status: Married
Occupation: Networking specialist & manager for contractor
Income: 70k-120k, salary + commissions, so just depends.
Astrological Sign: Sagittarius
What is the first thing you do when you wake up?
Brush my teeth & skincare, then lay in bed with my daughter for a few minutes.
Have you ever felt genuine fulfillment? When?
Personally, no. I tend to always think about “what’s next” or what still needs to get done. But when I think of my marriage and my daughter, there are moments every day that feel like small wins, and I can’t imagine being more fulfilled. Whether it’s a conversation or just seeing her happy, nothing beats it.
What is your most repetitive, negative thought?
That I’m going to mess up my child’s life without even realizing it; pass down negative traits, cause her trauma unknowingly, etc.
What is your most repetitive, positive thought?
That it is way more damaging to a child to model perfection than it is to show them we are human too; we are flawed and that despite anything that could happen to you, you are always in control of what you do with those challenges. (This one came from my therapist). This helps me with my most negative thought.
What is one thing that surprised you about adulthood?
The only one who really suffers from or benefits from your choices is you—and you have to start doing it for yourself.
What are three things you want to put every woman onto?
Hormone health!!! Rebalancing your hormones through food specifically.
Meditation & journaling daily.
People are not thinking about you (good or bad) as much as you think they are.
Rank the following from most to least important:
money, food, sex, love, and laughter (feel free to explain or don’t).
Laughter, love, sex, food, money.
How has your relationship with your parents/ guardians changed in adulthood?
More complex for sure. My relationship with my dad grew closer than it ever has in my life when he got diagnosed with cancer and really started to live his life in an inspiring way. My relationship with my mom became challenging & distant for the first time in my life when she struggled with her own demons in aging. Someone once told me that your parents are living life for the first time, too, and that’s helped me through a lot of it.
When do you feel most like yourself?
When I’m with my best friends. We’ve been together for 15 years now, and while I love my husband to death, I’d throw him in front of a bus for those girls. They bring out the most authentic side of me and always encourage me to feel at peace with that.
What is the best compliment someone has ever given you?
That my “anxiety” and deep thinking is actually a huge strength that allows me to be the most thoughtful/caring person they know. The ability to positively contribute to others brings me more joy than anything.
How do you feel about falling in love?
It doesn’t happen on a certain day or at a hugely significant moment. I think it happens with all of the small things every single day and continues to deepen as you experience life together more.
What is one thing you’re sick of hearing?
People telling me how to parent. My daughter is now 3 and it can be challenging at times. That, “If I just spank her she will respect me and start listening.” My husband and I talk often about how we want to parent and what we believe in, and as much as people say they respect that, they never shut up about what you should do differently.
How often do you feel alone?
Not often. I actually prefer it some days if I need a breather.
What is one thing you hope everyone experiences in their lifetime?
Having a baby and watching them grow. I still tear up thinking about how amazing of an experience it has been and will continue to be. Everyone says the love you have for a child is unlike any other and they’re right.
What is one thing you hope no one has to experience in their lifetime?
Losing a parent, yet everyone does in their lifetime. Just the thought of it feels like my world would turn upside down.
What is the best decision you’ve ever made?
A few years ago, I made the decision to stop throwing myself a pity party all the time and to stop victimizing myself for the things I’ve been through; to hold myself accountable for my own life and practice more gratitude. It ebbs and flows for sure, but it has drastically improved my anxiety. Being proactive and taking initiative Is the only thing that will get you to reach your goals, no one is going to hand it to you.
When do you feel most at ease?
Sundays. It’s the only day we get to spend an entire day the three of us and they always become my favorite days. Ending with a cooked meal, clean house, candle burning & cookies in bed - the three of us. A sense of peace, security and joy you just can’t beat.
What does having a successful life mean to you?
Being happy, taking care of myself and those around me, reaching my personal goals, creating a life where more days feel like Sundays.
(Remembering there’s a difference between having goals and being consumed by everything you’re not.)
How often do you think about your body?
More than I’d like to admit. Every day, honestly. Having a baby changes your body so much, and as empowering as it is, it’s hard to adjust to.
When do you ask for help?
It takes a lot for me. I like to do as much as I can myself. If I’m asking for help, it’s usually after a few failed attempts on my end.
What is something you feel strongly about?
At least 80% of the problems we have can be fixed with the way we take care of ourselves and our bodies. People gravitate towards quick fixes, whether it’s medication for a symptom or a drink after a stressful day, and it makes everything worse. Food can replace so many medications, self-care can replace stress, and therapy can heal more than you ever think. Go the long route, and your body and mind will thank you ten-fold.
BONUS: Tell me something good.
My dad was diagnosed with one of the worst cancers and with the worst prognosis there is - after the first year of treatment has been in a remissive state for almost three years now. A prime example of how you can’t worry about the future, take each day as it comes.
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