Age: 31
Relationship Status: Married
Occupation: Labor and Delivery RN
Income: 110,000k
Astrological Sign: Aquarius Sun, Gemini Rising, Gemini Moon
What is the first thing you do when you wake up?
If it's between my night shifts, I roll over and check the time on my phone, praying I got more than 6 hours between shifts. If it’s my day off, I check my phone, take out my Invisalign, make myself a cup of coffee, and cuddle my dog.
Have you ever felt genuine fulfillment? When?
I feel fulfillment when I bake something difficult for the first time and nail it, or when I finish a really great book. A specific moment of fulfillment for me was the first time I handed a baby to its mother and father for the first time. The look on their faces is the best part of my job.
What is your most repetitive, negative thought?
That I will never have children of my own. My husband and I have been trying for 1.5 years now. I’ve donated my eggs to strangers, and I’ve helped raise my younger siblings. I’ve wanted to be a mother all my life. The idea that I may not have my own scares me. Infertility is an isolating and lonely process that women don’t talk about enough.
What is your most repetitive, positive thought?
That I am loved and life is beautiful. I get to wake up each day and physically do things on my own. I have the ability to see the world. I am loved by my husband, my siblings, parents and friends.
What is one thing that surprised you about adulthood?
At this phase in life, what surprises me is how lonely and boring it can be. Friends have moved away and started careers and families. People have less and less time for you at this point. The days can feel repetitive, and the responsibilities and financial struggles can be isolating.
What are three things you want to put every woman onto?
A good, rechargeable vibrator.
Books! Find a genre or author and read. It’s the best escape.
Everyone should try mushrooms at least once. I don’t want to sound dramatic when I say it changed my perspective on life and death, but it truly did.
Rank the following from most to least important:
money, food, sex, love, and laughter (feel free to explain or don’t).
Love, laughter, food, money, sex.
How has your relationship with your parents/ guardians changed in adulthood?
I used to harbor a lot of resentment in my teens and early 20’s. One day I woke up and realized that resentment only keeps me down. It doesn’t change what happened or who they are. I’ve learned to forgive and let go and see them as humans that are flawed. They did the best they could with what they had.
When do you feel most like yourself?
When I get some good sleep, wake up, make myself a yummy breakfast, and spend some time in nature, I am recharged.
What is the best compliment someone has ever given you?
My older brother once told me that whatever I choose to learn or do, I would be the best at it.
How do you feel about falling in love?
I’m a sucker for love. I do it very easily too. Maybe it's my Pisces Venus (Ha!) But truly, the feeling of being yourself completely and having someone love all of those parts of you and knowing you have someone who supports you, makes you laugh, and wants you is what everyone should experience in life. Real, true love is so peaceful.
What is one thing you’re sick of hearing?
Negativity. We constantly divide ourselves in this country. I’m tired of hearing about politics and all of the hate. Or the way people talk horribly to one another online. Or the way the media pits successful women against each other. I wish people would be kinder.
How often do you feel alone?
To be honest, a lot. It’s not because I don’t have people in my life. I think there are just certain aspects to my job and my struggles that people don’t always understand and that can feel very lonely. Growing up, I was always most comfortable on my own. I like alone time. But the feeling of loneliness is one I’m still adjusting to at this moment in my life.
What is one thing you hope everyone experiences in their lifetime?
Acceptance. It's such a hard and beautiful part of life. Accepting what has happened to you, and the mistakes you’ve made. Acceptance leads to peace, and I think everyone deserves that.
What is one thing you hope no one has to experience in their lifetime?
Abuse. Of any kind.
What is the best decision you’ve ever made?
Marrying my husband. He’s my best friend. He keeps me from falling apart honestly.
When do you feel most at ease?
When I have no errands to run or chores to do, and I can just rot on the couch in my sweats.
What does having a successful life mean to you?
Having the ability and freedom to build the life you want. For me, that is having a family of our own, having a house we bought with our own money, and being physically and emotionally healthy.
How often do you think about your body?
Every day, and I wish I didn’t. I grew up with a lot of focus and talk about weight and diet, and it's a hard habit to break. I don’t have the body I had at 18 or even 25, and that's okay. It's a working, healthy body, and I try to remind myself of that.
When do you ask for help?
All the time. It’s pretty essential at my job. I’ve been a nurse for less than 2 years, and there is still so much to learn. I never used to like asking for help. This job has humbled me.
What is something you feel strongly about?
You can’t truly love someone until you love yourself.
BONUS: Tell me something good.
We are all here for whatever reason. As cheesy as it sounds, we only live once. So do what you want.
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