Age: 28
Relationship Status: Married
Occupation: Self-Employed, Freelance
Income: 120k YTD. All of my income is commission and in 20k - 50k chunks. I hope to make another 100k or so this year. But I might make 300k more. I also might not make another dime this year.
Astrological Sign: Sagittarius Sun, Leo Moon, Capricorn Rising. All of my other placements are in Sagittarius or Capricorn, except my Saturn, which is in Pisces.
What is the first thing you do when you wake up?
I wake up every day to my dog licking my face. It’s sweet, gross, annoying, and something I would hate to live without.
Have you ever felt genuine fulfillment? When?
Every day, and I always have. I love walking the path of life and generally have a lot of peace.
What is your most repetitive, negative thought?
That I am infertile and won’t be able to have children on the timeline I want them or even at all. That I will die of cancer extremely young and won’t get to have a family.
What is your most repetitive, positive thought?
“I love my life.” I am so fucking happy and blessed. I love my husband, my friends, my neighborhood, myself, and my entire existence.
What is one thing that surprised you about adulthood?
How much it rules.
What are three things you want to put every woman onto?
"A Room of One’s Own” by Virginia Woolf
Shakira’s early work, specifically the album “Donde Estan Los Ladrones”
Keep an exhaustive bulletin board of all the paper you collect and turn it into an altar for yourself.
Rank the following from most to least important:
money, food, sex, love, and laughter (feel free to explain or don’t).
Money, love, laughter, food, sex.
How has your relationship with your parents/ guardians changed in adulthood?
My relationship with my dad has gotten much better. He was pretty authoritarian when I was growing up, but now that I’m in charge of my own life, we’ve shifted into a great friendship. My relationship with my mom has become complicated by me no longer being religious and her still being extremely religious and expecting that for me and future children.
When do you feel most like yourself?
Listening to a really great album, cooking and feeding people, traveling with my husband, visiting my hometown, being creative in my hobbies, doing karaoke, putzing around my apartment, being the planner and organizer of my friends and our plans.
What is the best compliment someone has ever given you?
That I have an honest laugh.
How do you feel about falling in love?
That it is something you do every day. Not just with partners but with yourself, your life, the natural world, humanity, and experience. That it is a muscle.
What is one thing you’re sick of hearing?
Literally any Republican talking point.
How often do you feel alone?
I never feel alone in a bad way. I constantly feel alone in a “you’re all you’ve got” way but I enjoy that. I like being alone with myself.
What is one thing you hope everyone experiences in their lifetime?
Security. Financially, emotionally, physically. If I didn’t have such strong baseline security, I would be an entirely different person.
What is one thing you hope no one has to experience in their lifetime?
Childhood sexual abuse.
What is the best decision you’ve ever made?
Marrying my husband. Specifically, not breaking up with him about 8 months into our relationship when I could have moved across the country for a job. I wasn’t 100% sure on him yet, but decided to stay and see where the relationship went and I’m glad I did. It felt like the wrong choice at the time because everyone tells you to choose “yourself” which they falsely equate with choosing career but that would have been the wrong choice for me.
When do you feel most at ease?
At 8 am on a Saturday morning when I smoke and listen to my podcasts and clean my apartment, and play at my hobbies.
What does having a successful life mean to you?
Deep relationships, caring for others, financial abundance, free time for art and myself, a loving family, and a well-attended funeral.
How often do you think about your body?
UGH ALL THE TIME. I tried to practice radical body acceptance for a while, but it didn’t work, so I’m back to being mean to my body. I wish this occupied less brain space.
What is something you feel strongly about?
Getting all of your morality from religion is disingenuous.
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