Age: 33
Relationship Status: Boyfriennnn
Occupation: Marketing Exec
Income: 6 figures
Astrological Sign: Aries
What is the first thing you do when you wake up?
I’m a night owl. On days when I wake up easily, I pray in thankfulness, but it doesn’t always happen like that. I tend to push the limits, pressing snooze as many times as I can, so then I rush and think about how to be most efficient in getting ready for the day.
Have you ever felt genuine fulfillment? When?
Yes. My dad once told me via text that he was proud of me.
What is your most repetitive, negative thought?
I have too much fat on my body.
What is your most repetitive, positive thought?
I deserve the good things coming to me because I have worked hard for them—blood, sweat, and tears. Late nights, early mornings, above and beyond what was asked of me. All the experiences I’ve had led to my growth, my challenges, my success. I appreciate myself for persevering when it felt easier to give up.
What is one thing that surprised you about adulthood?
Stability. There comes a time when only the necessary things matter, that’s when my focus shifted away from what I thought was important. I stopped focusing on the noise and instead focused on myself. I focused on what made me happy and what I needed. And then came peace.
What are three things you want to put every woman onto?
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Rank the following from most to least important:
money, food, sex, love, and laughter (feel free to explain or don’t).
1. Laughter - a good sense of humor is the epitome of joy, and without it, what is happiness?
2. Love - it feels good to love.
3. Sex - this also feels very good.
4. Food - satisfies a human need that brings relief and content.
5. Money - is nice to have for security and needs, but we cannot rely on it to fill voids or create happiness.
How has your relationship with your parents/ guardians changed in adulthood?
There is certainly more of an understanding and respect between my parents and me. We grew up in different times, with different circumstances. They worked hard to provide the life my family has, and I will always be appreciative. Because of them, I was able to study at a major university, and I attribute much of the success in my career to that education—the education my parents might not have had but provided me. One of the best parts is that they are humble enough to ask me things they don’t know and to seek counsel, which feels good. I still seek their counsel on things as well. It is this newer sense of trust and value that we haven’t experienced before. It is beautiful.
When do you feel most like yourself?
When I’m with family or my current boyfriend. They truly know me for who I am. And are accepting and appreciative, so I am not afraid to be me.
What is the best compliment someone has ever given you?
In college, I was a D1 cheerleader. Every game, our coach would ask a fan in the stands to choose the cheerleader who stood out to them, and that cheerleader would get the “game ball.” Not many people receive it, let alone twice. In a stadium of over 100,000 people, to stand out was unimaginable. I felt like I was being complimented on the way I lived life—for enjoying the moment. That has always been encouraging.
How do you feel about falling in love?
When I was in my 20s, the idea used to terrify me. Once I found the right person, I didn’t even have to think twice. It is nothing you can help. It is nothing you should fight. It IS something you allow, and if given the opportunity, let it happen. It is always worth it.
What is one thing you’re sick of hearing?
Generally, any excuse. I manage a team at my job, if I ask someone on my team to do something, and however many days later it still isn’t done, I don’t care why it wasn’t done, I just want it to get done.
How often do you feel alone?
Not often, anymore. I found love, and we live together now. And he’s stuck with me evil laugh.
What is one thing you hope everyone experiences in their lifetime?
Acceptance. The feeling of having a group of people’s or a person’s love and loyalty unconditionally is powerful.
What is one thing you hope no one has to experience in their lifetime?
Grief.
What is the best decision you’ve ever made?
Leaving the idea and comfort of the relationship I thought I had. “The relationship I had always wanted.” In reality, it didn’t exist, and I was holding onto an idea that was proving to be toxic for me. I believed something would change, and I guess in the end, someone did—me. Because that is all I could control.
When do you feel most at ease?
When I’m with my mother.
What does having a successful life mean to you?
Purpose. Adding value to others. Offering sound advice and gaining knowledge and wisdom that will, in turn, be helpful to those who need it (me included).
How often do you think about your body?
Too often—body dysmorphia.
When do you ask for help?
When I can confidently delegate a task, or when I get to a point, I am so overwhelmed that I have no choice.
What is something you feel strongly about?
Changing people’s minds is not an option. You might as well respect the person and/or opinion and move on to a topic on which you can find common ground. If you can’t find some sort of mutual respect, remove yourself from the situation. Toxic tendencies are not worth one minute of the time they request. Control the controllable.
BONUS: Tell me something good.
I’m religious, not because I’m great at it, but because it keeps showing up for me—unexplainable yet perfect paths to life. Everything always works out. When I can remind myself to chill out—the idea that God is in control always helps.
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