Age: 25
Relationship Status: Technically single, but I’ve been dating someone for a few months
Occupation: Jewelry business owner (and I recently started another pet brand)
Income: $46,150
Astrological Sign: Virgo
What is the most important part of your daily routine?
Going to bed before 11pm. I’m a sleepy girl at heart and cannot survive on less than 8 hours - I also love the time to collect my thoughts and wind down.
What is your current happiness most dependent on?
How much freedom I have in my day-to-day routine and unobstructed time. I have few meetings; I don’t have to go to an office because I work for myself and can take a random afternoon off if I want to. I also desire financial freedom and freedom to spend time with people I love. I realize that I’m in a phase of life that allows me to be this selfish, but freedom is hugely important to me.
What do you wish you were less reliant on?
Social media. This is something I’m struggling with this year because the nature of my work is heavily social media dependent; however, before I started my brand, I made an active decision to not use TikTok and not rely on social media much. If I didn’t have this job, I’d 100% delete my apps, so I have a love-hate relationship with it. On the one hand, it’s given me this amazing life, but on the other, I find it draining, and the comparison has been hard mentally.
When do you question yourself?
All the time lol. I’m very critical of myself (I used to think this was just having high standards for myself, but perhaps not) in everything from work achievements to how I conduct myself in my relationships and my path in life. I think it’s healthy to question yourself, actually, because our thoughts aren’t facts, but I’d like to be better at not beating myself up for making mistakes.
What is something that has positively impacted how you perceive your self-worth?
I’m just a human and ‘human error’ is a thing for a reason. Not being perfect all the time doesn’t make me a bad person.
What is something you have forgiven yourself for?
For being thee less nice sister as a child. This is something I’ve only realized through therapy, but I grew up with a very kind, altruistic, tidy, and personable older sister (all the things society idolizes in women), which was a standard I couldn’t live up to. The narrative of my childhood was that she was the kind sister and I was the selfish one, but I’d probably end up being very successful. As I got older, I realized that this was baggage I was taking through to my adult relationships and that it was not actually true. I don’t think I had to forgive myself here because I didn’t do anything wrong but I guess that realization felt like forgiveness in itself.
What is something you have forgiven someone else for?
The last person I dated who broke my heart. I have now realized that I think I broke my own heart in that situation by expecting more from him than he could ever have given me. We’re all just people trying our best.
How do you ground/center yourself?
Alone time & journaling.
What is one thing that helped you through your most difficult time?
Time and the knowledge that it isn’t happening to me, it’s happening for me.
Have you ever felt like the best version of yourself? When?
Yes, when I was studying for my end of school exams at 18. I went through a period of self-growth and discovery, I was disciplined with exercise and work but what I liked most was that I wasn’t chasing other people’s expectations of me (that being excellent grades at the time) because I had this epiphany that that was just for my ego and not a necessity to get me where I wanted to go in life. It was so freeing and strangely in caring less about the outcome, I fell more in love with the process of learning and ended up doing very well without really trying.
What is something you fundamentally disagree with?
When people refer to an ex as ‘awful’ ‘bad person’ ‘a dick’ etc. I get that people can do hurtful things, but I think we’re all the villain in someone’s story, and blanket statements about someone’s character are generally untrue.
What is something you know for sure?
You often get in life what you’re willing to settle for.
What are three of your non-negotiables in romantic relationships?
Has a purpose in life that’s not just about money
Emotionally intelligent and tell me their feelings openly
Does the right thing even if there was an easier option
When do you feel most comfortable in your own skin?
When I’m in a very glamorous outfit, ideally involving some faux-fur and a stiletto.
Have you ever been in awe of something/someone? When?
It’s quite niche, but there’s a ceiling mural in the Scottish National Portrait Gallery that I think about a lot. It’s so beautiful and makes me feel unimportant in the best way.
What is the best (physical/material) gift you have ever received?
A watch for my graduation - I haven’t taken it off in 4 years (except to go through airport security).
What is one thing you wish you had said ‘yes’ to in the past?
Playing on the netball team when I was 10. I was too stubborn to do it because I knew my mum and my teachers wanted me to, but I think it would have made me more confident.
What is one thing you will always say ‘no’ to in the future?
Any relationship that will hold me back in life.
What do you believe is your most attractive quality?
My go-getting attitude. Someone once told me that I made even the most boring activities sound interesting and exciting, and I think it’s because I like to make as much of my life into an experience as possible—so I guess that’s it.
What/who do you want to be when you grow up?
A fabulous woman with an interesting and creative career, a wardrobe full of unique and rare clothes, a big house in the countryside with massive windows in her kitchen, and a bubbly curiosity for the world around her.
BONUS: Tell me something good.
Cows have best friends - isn’t that so cute? :)
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