Age: 33
Relationship Status: Married
Occupation: Psychologist
Income: 140,000
Astrological Sign: Taurus
What is the most important part of your daily routine?
Taking my probiotics and supplements. I don’t know if they are doing anything, but makes me feel in control and healthy I guess.
What is your current happiness most dependent on?
Having a baby. My husband and I have been struggling with infertility for the past 1.5 years. We are going through IVF with multiple failed transfers, and a miscarriage. There is no explanation as to what’s wrong. Right now, it feels like the only thing that will make me happy is being able to leave this awful stage of life, be pregnant and have a child.
What do you wish you were less reliant on?
I wish I were less reliant on comparing myself to others. This whole process has really shown me that I CONSTANTLY evaluate myself against others to see if I’m “on track”. This has been especially hard, as ALL of my friends have gotten pregnant while we are still struggling.
When do you question yourself?
Everyday! I question myself in my choices as a therapist (did I say the right things? Am I helping people?) and in my health (were there signs that we were going to struggle to conceive so much? Should I have known?)
What is something that has positively impacted how you perceive your self-worth?
Getting my degree and feeling totally fulfilled, like I had accomplished a huge goal for myself.
What is something you have forgiven yourself for?
I have forgiven myself for my neediness and insecurities in my ex-relationships - the right love will never make you feel insecure.
What is something you have forgiven someone else for?
I forgive my ex for his behavior towards me, he was young and confused as well.
How do you ground/center yourself?
Being near the water is very healing for me, as are routines. On the weekends, I wake up, walk the dog, go to the farmers market and grocery stores, do laundry. If I don’t do these things I feel very ungrounded come Monday. I live for a slow life.
What is one thing that helped you through your most difficult time?
I am IN my most difficult time right now, and the thing that is helping me is my husband’s steadfast hope and support. Keeping my routines help. Reminding myself that this is a phase and won’t define my life forever helps somewhat too.
Have you ever felt like the best version of yourself? When?
2018. Young, hot, single in a big city! Life was full of possibilities and fun.
What is something you fundamentally disagree with?
I disagree with voting politically for your own best interest rather than the common good. Decency matters.
What is something you know for sure?
I will be a good mom. My husband will be a great dad. We will be a loving family.
What are three of your non-negotiables in romantic relationships?
1. Shared values
2. Commitment
3. Patience
When do you feel most comfortable in your own skin?
Honestly not much anymore. IVF has taken something away from me regarding how I feel about my body.
Have you ever been in awe of something/someone? When?
I am in awe of my parents! Two immigrants raising 2 kids in a foreign country and they never complained once throughout my childhood. I can’t believe I was ever embarrassed about their accents; my parents speak 3 languages like… that’s incredible.
What is the best (physical/material) gift you have ever received?
A gift to Paris for my last birthday with my husband! So thoughtful; he planned the whole thing!
What is one thing you wish you had said ‘yes’ to in the past?
I wish I said yes and took a bet on myself to move to California when I was younger. Life works out the right way though, I met the love of my life later that year.
What is one thing you will always say ‘no’ to in the future?
Drinking if I don’t want to.
What do you believe is your most attractive quality?
I’m a great listener. I understand people’s pain and really am able to sit with it and empathize.
What/who do you want to be when you grow up?
I want to be a mom - manifesting that for myself!!
BONUS: Tell me something good.
My cutie dog makes everything happy; he just rolled over and asked me to scratch his belly. What’s better than that!?
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