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#28. heavy weights, overwhelming joy & not holding back

Writer's picture: Devyn Penney Devyn Penney



Age: 47

Relationship Status: Married

Occupation:  Bridal Industry

Income: fluctuates 

Astrological Sign: Virgo

 

What is the first thing you do when you wake up? 

Weigh myself, I know I know, it’s awful but I’m being 100% transparent. After that I have a giant glass of water, take my supplements, have my coffee and read. I always read a self-empowering book in the morning. It is my favorite part of the day, I made myself a little reading nook right in my kitchen.

 

Have you ever felt genuine fulfillment? When? 

Yes of course! But I feel like I am always growing, so there is always room for more, a desire for more (not material things). I expect more of myself and want more from life. I remind myself to always be grateful but also the feeling of true fulfillment is fleeting, as I’m always reaching for the next goal. My cup is filled when I reach a goal, or complete a big transition but I’m always thinking, ok what’s next?

 

What is your most repetitive, negative thought? 

You’re not doing enough, you’re never going to be everything you can be, you’re running out of time.

 

What is your most repetitive, positive thought? 

You will never miss what the universe has for you.

 

What is one thing that surprised you about adulthood? 

How much you worry about everyone! When you’re younger and only have yourself to worry about it’s one thing. When you get older you worry about everyone, your husband, your kids, your parents, your friends, your friends’ kids, your kids kids….you don’t want anything to happen to anyone, life is delicate and the longer you’re here the more you realize that.

 

What are three things you want to put every woman onto? 

  1. Sally Hansen Air brush legs, Leg Makeup (the lotion not the spray)- I wish I could link it here. It is the most amazing product! You can find it usually on the bottom shelf of any CVS. It is not a tanner but a tinted leg cream that DOES NOT COME OFF. It goes on like a dream and makes your legs look perfectly tanned and smooth.

  2. Laneiege Lip Sleeping Mask. The best lip hydrator out there. I put it on every night.

  3. Lift Heavy Shit! Lift weights, get good at it, don’t be afraid you’re going to get too bulky. Trust me your 40 something year old self will love you if you start lifting weights. Your strength is the first thing to start to diminish. You need muscle!! And it’s kind of bad ass to always be able to open a jar! 


Rank the following from most to least important: 

money, food, sex, love, and laughter (feel free to explain or don’t). 

laughter, love, sex, money, food….Laughter is first because if you can’t laugh your screwed. The older you get the less laughter there is, real belly shaking laughs. When you laugh till you cry at something or with someone it always stays with you. Moments of shared laughter are gold. 

 

How has your relationship with your parents/ guardians changed in adulthood? 

I’ve realized my parents are just people. Things they’ve done, shit they’ve said, you’ve got to let that go. They were learning and growing, and you can either blame all your “shit” on your parents or you can work through it, realize people make mistakes. Parenting doesn’t come with a handbook, no one tells you how to do it or if you’re doing it right. Whatever I held against my parents I’ve let it go, you get to decide what kind of person you want to be regardless of how you grew up.

 

When do you feel most like yourself? 

This one is so easy! Driving in my car, windows down, sun out, music blaring and a delicious, iced coffee! I have actually replaced a stereo in my car before because it wasn’t loud enough. The stereo system in the current car I drive was a big part of the purchase! 

 

What is the best compliment someone has ever given you? 

“You always know just the right thing to say, talking to you always makes me feel better”

 

How do you feel about falling in love? 

Falling in love is amazing. But you also need to be prepared to fall in and out of love. Being in love and falling in love are very different to me. Falling in love is temporary, being in love is permanent.

 

What is one thing you’re sick of hearing?

Having a presence on social media is so important.

 

How often do you feel alone? 

Never. 

 

What is one thing you hope everyone experiences in their lifetime?

Overwhelming joy. Something that makes you so happy you just cry about it. Whatever it is, a marriage, a love, a child, a puppy, a new job….something that just fills you up so much you overflow.

 

What is one thing you hope no one has to experience in their lifetime?

Tragedy, senseless loss. It’s the reason I can’t watch the news. When I hear about the loss of other people it stays with me for some time. Tragic accidents or people harming other people for senseless reasons - I hate that people experience that and I wish no one had to.


What is the best decision you’ve ever made? 

The best decision I ever made was living alone. I lived by myself from age 21 - 25. Knowing that you can be alone and be okay is one of the most empowering feelings.

 

When do you feel most at ease?

I feel most at ease when my whole family is home. 

 

What does having a successful life mean to you? A successful life to me means holding nothing back. I don’t wait for anything; I don’t wait for an occasion to wear the dress or use the good china. I don’t hold back words from people I love or even strangers that I feel need a hello or a smile. I don’t ever want to say I wish I did this, or I should have said that. 

 

How often do you think about your body? 

Ugh…..see question one LOL! Every day, multiple times a day. It makes me crazy. I know that it’s silly. I know it’s unhealthy, I know all the things, but alas all day every day. 

 

When do you ask for help? 

I don’t typically tend to ask for help. No, I don’t ask for help, but I will accept it. 

  

What is something you feel strongly about? 

I feel very strongly about women supporting women in a very authentic way. In this era where we are constantly seeing only the best in everyone via social media, constantly comparing ourselves, I feel it is so important to connect with other women in a real and authentic way. Supporting each other and sharing real experiences, letting our guards down and not always having to appear perfect or like we have it all together all the time is the best way to love each other and support each other. And in addition, women need to complement each other more! If you love someone’s shoes, or smile, or eyes or laugh tell them!! I guarantee you will make their day, receiving compliments from other women always makes me feel so happy!

 

BONUS: Tell me something good. 

I absolutely love that you sent this to me. I love that you even thought of me, even if you sent this to every woman on your contact list, I love that I was one of those women! Thinking that someone may read this or get something out of this really filled my cup, so thank you!

 

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