Age: 31
Relationship Status: Single…for now ;)
Occupation: Sales Manager
Income: ~$190,000
Astrological Sign: Scorpio sun, Leo moon, Capricorn rising
What is the most important part of your daily routine?
The first 3 hours of my morning. I wake up to zen music playing and make my coffee. By the time I sit down, my kitty is usually ready to jump onto my lap, post-treats, of course.
What is your current happiness most dependent on?
Feeling fulfilled with what I’ve accomplished for myself and others. Oh, and being left alone by my work bully. Who was supposed to prepare us for work bullies?
What do you wish you were less reliant on?
The way my feelings and emotions shift while chatting with a friend and their emotions flare up. I become overwhelmed by negative conversations that revolve around 3rd parties. These aren’t my burdens to hold. Lately, I’ve felt incredibly sensitive.
When do you question yourself?
Mostly while dating. It’s exhausting. I question whether or not the “dating normalities” are really for me. I don’t think I’m fit to date more than one person at once casually. I understand the concept of it, but I think it’s important to honor that something doesn't feel natural to me. So, I question everything when I push myself to do something in already uncomfortable territory - that’s when it becomes uneasy for me. I’ve recently met a really great guy, though…fingers and toes crossed!!
What is something that has positively impacted how you perceive your self-worth?
I recently spent a significant amount of time with my parents and siblings. Allowing myself to be surrounded by them and seeing the world through their eyes truly changed my perspective on life. The time spent with them helped me become much gentler with myself.
What is something you have forgiven yourself for?
Behaving so aggressively in my early twenties. It used to make me cringe when someone would say, “Have some grace,” but now I think giving myself grace and the gift of therapy actually saved my life. Thank God for my therapist.
What is something you have forgiven someone else for?
In a large way, I’ve had to forgive my mother for the choices she’s made throughout her life that have ultimately resulted in not having a relationship with her. It was difficult to grieve someone that’s still very much alive. We’re all experiencing life for the first time.
How do you ground/center yourself?
Time in nature or zoning out to music while driving or completing a house chore. I need time alone to decompress and come back into my body.
What is one thing that helped you through your most difficult time?
Music! It helps me process a lot of my emotions. I remember the songs that helped keep me sane and comforted when my dad was passing. An honorable mention (and endless gratitude) to my family and friends who religiously checked on me during that time.
Have you ever felt like the best version of yourself? When?
I’d like to think that I’m the best version of myself right now FOR right now.
What is something you fundamentally disagree with?
We don’t need to constantly put ourselves in front of motivational speeches or self-help resources. Sure, they’re helpful and most of us leave the meat and take the bones, but if you’re constantly seeking this, are you really ever focused and present in your life right now? I think the best things I’ve learned and held on to are those that were first person experiences. Letting go of the need to control the path to the “next best self” was a game-changer.
What is something you know for sure?
That removing myself from social media FB/Insta has protected my peace in so many ways. Comparison is the thief of joy.
What are three of your non-negotiables in romantic relationships?
Consideration… I’ll say it again CONSIDERATION. I think this is one of the highest forms of love to exist.
Communication.
Experience in therapy or willingness to explore themselves on a deeper level. A partner is typically only capable of meeting you or seeing you as deeply as they know themselves.
When do you feel most comfortable in your own skin?
Wearing comfortable clothing, either with loved ones or by myself.
Have you ever been in awe of something/someone? When?
Definitely. I recently re-visited a church I used to frequent, and the love in that room was so positively overwhelming. I was silently crying while singing.
What is the best (physical/material) gift you have ever received?
My baby blanket! My grandmother recently revived it for me, and I have full faith that it’ll last me another 30+ years! That blanket is full of secrets.
What is one thing you wish you had said ‘yes’ to in the past?
Weekend events for life milestones. Work isn't a big enough reason to have said no to so many of them….but definitely some of them.
What is one thing you will always say ‘no’ to in the future?
Absolutely anything that causes me to abandon myself for someone else.
What do you believe is your most attractive quality?
I’m incredibly loyal and private, but my sense of humor probably supersedes that.
What/who do you want to be when you grow up?
This made me instantly well up with tears. I think I'm still figuring this out. If I had to answer right now, I’d say I want to be kind and part of a truly beautiful family of my own.
BONUS: Tell me something good.
I have a nice view from my apartment and I’ve noticed so many people smiling, laughing, and holding hands lately. I love seeing it, and being a part of it.
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