Age: 27
Relationship Status: Single
Occupation: Lawyer
Income: 125k +
Astrological Sign: Cancer
What is the most important part of your daily routine?
Taking my ADHD medication. I wasn’t officially diagnosed until my 2nd year of law school, and I am so thankful to no longer have to rely on the adrenaline and stress of an immediately impending deadline to force my brain to zone in.
What is your current happiness most dependent on?
In the past, my happiness was most dependent on the state of my romantic relationships and receiving male validation. But during this time of being single, I have noticed that my happiness depends more on receiving praise and appreciation at work. Neither is ideal, which is probably why consistent happiness seems to elude me.
What do you wish you were less reliant on?
Other people. I have been betrayed and let down by others far too many times in my life. Yet, I still struggle to rely on myself instead of other people.
When do you question yourself?
Whenever someone treats me poorly, after feeling hurt, I immediately question whether I am overreacting or blowing something out of proportion.
What is something that has positively impacted how you perceive your self-worth?
Becoming a lawyer, which has also allowed me to become financially independent.
What is something you have forgiven yourself for?
Losing all of my student loan money by investing in risky stocks. That’s what happens when you get financial advice from your 20-year-old boyfriend.
What is something you have forgiven someone else for?
I forgave my two childhood best friends for turning against me in junior high and joining the rest of the girls in our grade in pretending I was invisible for 2 years. I am actually thankful for it now as I learned so many lessons about dealing with toxic situations that I have continued to rely upon to this day.
How do you ground/center yourself?
By getting back to the things that make me feel good. I move my body (typically through hot yoga or spin), prep meals, journal, or meditate. And therapy!
What is one thing that helped you through your most difficult time?
My cats. My oldest cat has shown me the most stable, unconditional love that I have ever experienced, and my kitten’s pure innocence and joy over the simplest of things brought joy to my life at a time when it otherwise did not exist.
Have you ever felt like the best version of yourself? When?
When I was 23. I was living with friends, had a great job lined up post-graduation, was having fun with dating, and was healthy and in great shape. I think the best version of me is still yet to come, but first, I have to heal from losing everything that my best version had.
What is something you fundamentally disagree with?
Stepping on others to get ahead. If I have to play a bit dirty to succeed somewhere, that is not the place for me.
What is something you know for sure?
That I want to be a mother.
What are three of your non-negotiables in romantic relationships?
To be teammates and share the load with unwavering support.
The ability to open up and be honest and vulnerable with one another.
To be with someone who has a strong family unit and wants to have a family of their own.
When do you feel most comfortable in your own skin?
When I am eating well and working out regularly. And having a tan doesn’t hurt ;)
Have you ever been in awe of something/someone? When?
In many ways, I was in awe of my long-term boyfriend. It’s been more than a year and a half since our breakup, and I am still in awe of how well-rounded and naturally talented he was at nearly everything. If only he were as good at going to therapy.
What is the best (physical/material) gift you have ever received?
In 2018, my grandma passed away very suddenly a few weeks before Christmas. On Christmas Day, there was a gift from my grandma under the tree because she had already done her Christmas shopping and wrapping before she passed. She had gotten me a pair of moccasin slippers that I rarely wear as I intend to keep them forever.
What is one thing you wish you had said ‘yes’ to in the past?
I wish I had said yes to a semester abroad. I didn’t fully appreciate how much life would change once I was no longer a student.
What is one thing you will always say ‘no’ to in the future?
Relationships with avoidant men.
What do you believe is your most attractive quality?
My work ethic. I believe that hard work matters so much more than how smart you are, how much money you have, what has happened to you in life, etc. I wouldn’t be who I am today without my work ethic.
What/who do you want to be when you grow up?
I want to be a mother and a wife. I also want to be an accomplished lawyer in my area of practice, but that will always come second.
BONUS: Tell me something good.
2025 is going to be the best year yet.
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