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Writer's pictureDevyn Penney

#185. solo dates, SSRI's & reiki attunement




Age: 26

Relationship Status: Single

Occupation: Community Nursing Scheduler/Intake

Income: Around 34K

Astrological Sign: Aquarius Sun, Leo Moon, and Gemini Rising


What is your first thought every morning?

What’s the time? I need to know if I have time to casually peruse my phone in bed or if I need to speed up or subtract from my morning routine (make bed, meditation, physio). 


What is something you do solely for you?

Solo dates! I don’t need friends or a man to take me to musical theater shows, brunch, or movie nights. I also try to read for 30 minutes a day, journal daily, and meditate for 15 minutes every morning and every night to keep me happy and calm. 


What is something you dread?

I dread losing my parents. One of my friends lost their Mom last year, and I really felt for them, seeing how heavy and hard dealing with the grief was. The older I get, the more I realize I have less time to spend with my family. 


What is something you are looking forward to?

I am looking forward to fully recovering from my two knee injuries. (A partially torn lateral meniscus in my right knee and patella tracking issues in my left). I am also looking forward to getting my full driving license. 


When do you feel most accomplished?

When I complete something that took a lot of time and energy! It took me around 100 hours, three attempts, and 10 years to get the first half of my license. I also feel really accomplished when I practice routines for months and then perform them for shows I’m in. 


What is something you regret investing in financially?

I regret not fully researching two health and wellness courses before spending $200 on one course and $4746 on another. I didn’t even complete the less expensive course. 

In the more expensive course, I did get through some emotional blocks at the time, but I’m not using the skills I learned in the program, and I feel like it costs more than it should have. 


What is something you regret investing in emotionally?

Spending time in relationships for longer than needed because of the time invested, seeing the person's potential rather than accepting who they are, and letting them walk all over your boundaries. I’ve had this issue with my ex of 3 years as well as a friend of 3 years. 


What are three things you think are absolutely worth the investment?

(financially, emotionally, or time/energy-wise)

  1. Rest. When you let yourself rest, your cold only lasts the normal amount of time…instead of turning into a 2 weeklong sinus infection. 

  2. A good mattress, pillow, and comfortable bedding. I got a new mattress-mine was 12 years old. My sleep is so much better. 

  3. Education. Lifelong learner here. Learning makes us more capable, kinder, smarter, and better people. 


When do you feel most creative?

I feel most creative at work, unfortunately. I do data entry, and it's mind-numbing. It puts my brain in that nice state where ideas come naturally. I like to write my revaluations down on sticky notes so I can expand on them later. 


How often do you compare yourself to others? When?

I compare myself to people my age who have spouses and children. I feel like I’m behind somehow. I also compare myself to those who seem to be financially well off. Despite budgeting, every month I feel like I’m just only keeping my head above water, and I would need to work over 40 hours to live comfortably in this country. I’ve tried it, and it has negatively impacted my mental health. I have zero debt, so I have that going for me. Every so often, these feelings try to sneak up on me.


What is one thing you’d like to thank your past self for?

For spending over 4 years in therapy and vowing to never take SSRI’s again. (I respect the freedom to choose; this is just my experience). Processing everything and gaining multiple coping modalities took a long time, but I’m out on the other side, and it is so much better. Numbing it doesn’t fix the root of the problem. You need to feel to heal. 


What is one thing you believe about your future self?

She will get everything she’s ever wanted and dreamed about. She just needs to be patient (and work on/for it if appropriate) 


What is one thing you learned in childhood that you have now had to unlearn in adulthood?

Your parent’s views, expectations, and opinions are not yours. 

Your life is your own. 


Have you ever felt pure joy? When?

There are too many to count. 

Every day is an opportunity for pure joy if you let it. Life is in the now. 

However, I will say there’s nothing that beats the rush I get when I purchase something of great quality at a heavily discounted price. 


What is something that would feel really good to get off your chest?

I had a roommate who ended up getting arrested for dr*g charges and s*xual interference. I found out when there was a warrant on my counter.  I had absolutely no idea. If there’s one thing you can take away from reading my responses, please be careful with who you trust. 


When do you feel most in your feminine energy?

I think I’m most in my feminine energy when I am nurturing others or empowering other women.  I think everyone, regardless of gender or gender identity, has both masculine and feminine energy. 


What is one interaction that changed your life?

When I got my Reiki 1 attunement. It’s changed the way I look at my personal energy, growth, and power. Being able to tap into the life force energy to heal myself, others, pets, and plants has been incredible. I’m getting my Reiki 2 soon-I can’t wait! 

For those who don’t want to go down the reiki path, simple changes to raise your vibrations, connect with your community, ground yourself, provide security, be more creative, etc. work just as well.


What is something you want to give up?

Embarrassment and fear of rejection  


What is something you want to take up?

More creative hobbies! (Candle making, crocheting, baking, ceramics, etc) 


What do you believe is a universal truth?

Love is the key.  Many religions share ‘the golden rule’ – it must be important if it’s something widely agreed on.  We are here to have love and be loved. 


BONUS: Tell me something good.

‘Tell me that you love me, yeah

Tell me something good

Tell me that you like it, yeah’ 

Sorry, I had to. 

 

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