Age: 60
Relationship Status: Widowed
Occupation: Retired
Income: N/A
Astrological Sign: Aquarius
What is your first thought every morning?
What do I need to do today to help get everything done and in order for me to move on?
What is something you do solely for you?
Binge-watch shows I enjoy on Netflix, HULU, Showtime, Prime Video (you get the picture, I'm sure).
What is something you dread?
It's already happened. I lost my husband on August 30, 2024.
What is something you are looking forward to?
Online shopping for beautiful jewelry and clothes for both myself and my daughter.
When do you feel most accomplished?
When I see my son (38) and my daughter (22) being responsible human beings and watching my son with his wife and children. I love seeing how they've grown and knowing that I personally contributed to how they turned out.
What is something you regret investing in financially?
A couple of different work-from-home makeup businesses (Mary Kay, AVON...)
What is something you regret investing in emotionally?
My first two failed marriages. I don't regret my children (first marriage), but I do regret putting myself in the position of being a stepmom to two of three disrespectful stepdaughters (second marriage).
What are three things you think are absolutely worth the investment?
(financially, emotionally, or time/energy-wise)
Spending quality time with my grandchildren, now that I'm healthy and my husband is gone.
Being able to buy gifts for my daughter, son, daughter-in-law and grandchildren.
My middle daughter is getting married in September of 2025. My daughter and I have been invited to attend. We weren't invited to my oldest daughter's wedding, and that made me very sad for her because she was missing out on getting to know me and her baby sister.
When do you feel most creative?
When I've gotten plenty of sleep. But that doesn't happen very often because of grief, and for 13 years, my abdomen was damaged, and I was in chronic abdominal pain for that entire time. I was finally and successfully operated on, and now I'm healthy.
How often do you compare yourself to others? When?
I have never compared myself to others. I am forever grateful for the life I've been given.
What is one thing you’d like to thank your past self for?
Being secure in the knowledge that I was truly loved by my adopted family. I always knew I was adopted and felt like I belonged. No one ever made me feel as if I were different or not an important part of the family.
What is one thing you believe about your future self?
That I will be financially secure and able to continue living the life I've become accustomed to.
What is one thing you learned in childhood that you have now had to unlearn in adulthood?
I know I must be extremely careful about what I let past my lips, especially in front of my impressionable grandchildren!
Have you ever felt pure joy? When?
Boy, that's a tough one. There have been several instances where I've felt relieved and at peace, most recently after my life-saving surgery, where I had an abnormal opening from my inside to the outside and a very messed up abdomen; it was removed and repaired back to normal, or what it should have always been. That was in early April of this year. I am finally healthy after 13 years of being sick.
What is something that would feel really good to get off your chest?
Telling all of the non-believers about my chronic pain and disability. That it was worse than they ever knew and that I wasn't faking being sick; I was faking being well to keep them from feeling sorry for me when all I ever really wanted was to be understood and not considered to be “less than.”
When do you feel most in your feminine energy?
To be quite honest, I don't know what that means.
What is one interaction that changed your life?
The day my late husband and I got married and had our daughter 15 months later. Being with the two of them made all the difference in my life. I've always believed that he and I should have gotten married when I was 19, instead of the man I did marry the first time...I never would have been damaged the way I was if it had gone that way.
What is something you want to give up?
I can't think of anything else I want to give up because I've already given up the love of my life! What more do I need to give up?
What is something you want to take up?
Making jewelry. Simple beaded necklaces, lanyards, earrings and bracelets.
What do you believe is a universal truth?
All those who are good to others will be richly rewarded someday.
BONUS: Tell me something good.
I already have. My life-saving surgery. The only thing “bad” about it is that two months later, my husband was diagnosed with end-stage liver disease and liver cancer. He was given three to six months to live and passed away at the two-and-a-half-month mark.
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