Age: Two weeks away from turning 30
Relationship Status: Happily married for 3 years
Occupation: Travel Advisor & Bartender
Income: Roughly 60K - technically both of my jobs are part time.
Astrological Sign: Scorpio Sun, Capricorn Moon & Cancer Rising
What is your first thought every morning?
Most mornings, I wake up thinking - “Where the fuck did that dream come from!?”
What is something you do solely for you?
Me time usually involves listening to an ungodly amount of Taylor Swift while smoking a tasty joint.
What is something you dread?
The loss of my 15-year-old dog. I see her declining slowly, and it breaks my heart. I’ve lived half of my life with her by my side. She’s truly the definition of a soul dog. I pray that she doesn’t ever have to suffer.
What is something you are looking forward to?
Traveling with my family! The best perk of my job is getting to go on lots of trips, but I end up traveling with coworkers or hosting group vacations the majority of the time. While I love traveling alone because it forces me to grow outside of my comfort zone, sometimes I feel super sad that my family isn’t seeing all of the amazing things I am. My next scheduled trips are all with loved ones! Yay!
When do you feel most accomplished?
When I finally complete a task that I’ve been anxiously procrastinating
When clients send me pictures of their travels and thank me for helping them make lifelong memories
What is something you regret investing in financially?
Credit cards. I’ve been struggling with debt since the pandemic hit. I also regret going to college when I had no idea what I wanted to do as a career … so much money was wasted on that.
What is something you regret investing in emotionally?
My father. He had no interest in being in my life until I was 26. Since then, he’s tried to stay in touch, but he’s ridiculously inconsistent. I try hard to play it cool like I don’t care, but I do. He doesn’t deserve my energy. He deserves to piss off. I hate myself every time I get upset because of him.
What are three things you think are absolutely worth the investment?
(financially, emotionally, or time/energy-wise)
Financially - Traveling
Emotionally – Love and Giving yourself time to feel grief and heal no matter how long it takes.
Time/Energy - Carving out alone time for yourself and making sure that you prioritize maintaining relationships with people who make you laugh.
When do you feel most creative?
Ha, almost never. I’m just not a creative person. I wish I was!
How often do you compare yourself to others? When?
I try very hard not to compare myself to others, but it is occasionally inevitable. I’ll compare myself to people my age who seem more financially stable than me, people who actually want children or seem to be raising kids with ease, and people with flat stomachs. Most of these comparisons pop up when I run into people I graduated high school with—it’s a hazard of living in a small town.
What is one thing you’d like to thank your past self for?
Ditching my high school boyfriend that I was with for 10 years. It took me a long time to build the courage to start over. If I had never done that, I’d still be bored to death with life. At the same time, I also thank myself for having that relationship. He taught me a lot about what is acceptable and what should never be tolerated when it comes to love. He taught me just as much about friendship. I hope he’s happier now too.
What is one thing you believe about your future self?
I believe my 30s are going to be my favorite decade of life yet and I’m going to age like fine wine!
What is one thing you learned in childhood that you have now had to unlearn in adulthood?
This question is a doozy! I’ve had to unlearn that it’s normal to sacrifice your own mental health and happiness to help your family. Family should not always come first. Some people do not continuously deserve help. There’s only so much you can do for someone; people must want to change. People have to be willing to help themselves.
Have you ever felt pure joy? When?
Yes!
Seeing Taylor Swift live!
Marrying my husband! We had a very small, intimate ceremony that was perfection.
Anytime I’m at the beach playing in the waves!
What is something that would feel really good to get off your chest?
I had an ectopic pregnancy a few years ago, and afterwards, I was relieved. That doesn’t mean it wasn’t a TERRIFYING ordeal! I recognize that I’m INCREDIBLY lucky to have had access to proper, safe healthcare! I didn’t want to have a baby at all, though. I’m thankful every day that I’m not tied down by motherhood. It feels good to say that because anytime you talk to someone about a situation like that, they treat you like you’re fragile. I’ve never once felt sad about losing the baby. I can’t even say that to my husband because he was devastated.
When do you feel most in your feminine energy?
I feel most connected to my feminine energy during sex, specifically when I’m on top in control or solo.
What is one interaction that changed your life?
I was offered my job as a travel advisor because I got drunk with some of my bar regulars one night after work. I’m not sure what I said to him and his wife while hanging out that night, but the next time he came into the restaurant, he offered me a role at his company. I had no experience and told him no. He said he thought that I would be a good fit and that I should just try out the job with no strings attached… I ended up taking a leap of faith, and it has truly changed my life. I’ve gotten to go to so many countries and meet so many unique people since I accepted his offer. I’m forever grateful for that drunken night!
What is something you want to give up?
Eating fast food! I’m guilty of ordering it way too much.
What is something you want to take up?
Investing. I really want to learn how to manage my money and grow it!
What do you believe is a universal truth?
Everyone believes in some form of higher power. I recently saw a quote that really struck a chord with me. It said, “Witches call it spells, spiritualists call it manifesting, Christians call it prayer, atheists call it the placebo effect, scientists call it quantum physics. Everyone is arguing about the name. Nobody is denying its existence”.
BONUS: Tell me something good.
This year I checked 3 things off of my bucket list! I swam at the base of a waterfall, I hiked Petra - one of the 7 wonders of the world, and I swam with sea turtles! (:
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