Age: 23
Relationship Status: In a relationship
Occupation: College student (IT major)
Income: Broke college student, haha
Astrological Sign: Cancer sun, Capricorn moon, Gemini rising
What is your first thought every morning?
My thoughts every morning depend on my mood. As someone with severe anxiety, every day feels different, and every morning, I decide to get in tune with my feelings and remember to be gentle with myself. I thrive when I have busy, productive days because it makes me feel accomplished and I can rest better - I don’t enjoy sitting with my thoughts for too long.
What is something you do solely for you?
Being kind to myself. My therapist once told me that being kind to yourself is a revolutionary act, and I agree. We live in constant societal pressure and feel the need to change who we are to fit in or to please others. I decide to be kind to myself because I deserve it and I am worthy of love.
What is something you dread?
Thinking about how I cannot rescue every stray animal in the world, especially cats. I wish I could give every single animal a loving home. I keep hoping and praying they get the love and protection they deserve.
What is something you are looking forward to?
Having a stable job and an income that allows me to travel. There are so many places on my bucket list that I want to visit. I also want to meet new people. I moved to the US five years ago, but due to remote classes, I haven’t been able to make many friends. Hopefully, that will change soon.
When do you feel most accomplished?
When I realize that I’m on the path that I’ve always wanted. Sometimes I compare myself to other people’s journeys, but everyone has a different story and a different path. Each day, I am getting closer to making my dreams come true, and that’s all that matters, no matter how long it takes. To my fellow college girlies, keep going! We’re almost there!
What is something you regret investing in financially?
I don’t have major financial regrets. However, during quarantine, I spent too much money on Candy Crush. It was a dark time, okay???
What is something you regret investing in emotionally?
Thinking too often about people who have hurt me in the past. It is painful to know that they won’t change or apologize. And even though I didn’t deserve how they made me feel, I realized that I deserve to be free and happy, and let them be miserable with themselves. Like Taylor Swift said, “let them keep living in the darkness and we’ll keep walking in the sunlight.”
What are three things you think are absolutely worth the investment?
(financially, emotionally, or time/energy-wise)
Therapy
Traveling
Education (doesn’t have to be formal, just keep learning new things!)
When do you feel most creative?
When I am listening to my favorite songs, I become inspired and motivated to do new things, whether is trying a new recipe I saw on TikTok or think of a new business idea. The options seem endless.
How often do you compare yourself to others? When?
At 23, it seems that everyone is doing so many things. Sometimes I feel behind as many people are graduating and advancing their careers and I am still in college. Some are married and have children. Others are traveling the world. I have noticed that comparing myself to people on social media isn’t the healthiest thing to do. Like I said before, everyone’s journey is different, and I have so much time to do anything I want. Sometimes it's easy to forget how far I’ve come and how hard I’m working to achieve my goals.
What is one thing you’d like to thank your past self for?
For being so brave, patient, and resilient. I moved to the US by myself when I was 18, and I am amazed and grateful for how brave she was, for how brave I WAS. I didn’t know what was going to happen, but five years later here we are, thriving. She did that. She made it happen.
What is one thing you believe about your future self?
That she will finally realize that she has always been enough. And that she will go to Amsterdam like she promised herself when she was 14.
What is one thing you learned in childhood that you have now had to unlearn in adulthood?
That you don’t have to suffer through the process to have good results. It is okay to fail, you can always try again. The world isn’t going to end because of a bad grade. I am slowly learning to enjoy life because that’s what we’re here for!
Have you ever felt pure joy? When?
When I am cuddling with my cats, and when I am on a road trip with my boyfriend. It’s the little things.
What is something that would feel really good to get off your chest?
I don’t like it when people do not reciprocate empathy and kindness. I have met many people with double standards who expect you to be there for them, supporting them all the way, but they never support you, and they even try to bring you down. Like sorry if I am being distant, but you only contact me when you need me!
When do you feel most in your feminine energy?
When I can be myself freely, and not worry about anything. When I can just be.
What is one interaction that changed your life?
My first session with my therapist. She has been an incredible support, and I am glad to have her as my therapist. She has helped me heal and understand myself and others better.
What is something you want to give up?
Comparing myself to others too much. I am working on it, it is not easy to do this, but it is so rewarding when I find myself genuinely happy for someone else without thinking about myself. Not everything is about me, and that’s perfectly fine!
What is something you want to take up?
Working out more. I am very interested in Pilates; I’ve heard so many good things about it!
What do you believe is a universal truth?
I don’t think there are any universal truths, it’s all about perspective.
BONUS: Tell me something good.
It’s almost fall! Cozy season is approaching, and that makes me very happy!
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