Age: 30
Relationship Status: In love! Married
Occupation: Currently on maternity leave
Income: Mat leave pay (33%) $22k. Household 130k~ish
Astrological Sign: Gemini sun, Scorpio moon, Libra rising
What is the most important part of your daily routine?
Right now, my morning coffee and easing into the day with my son. He’s so sweet, it’s just the best.
What is your current happiness most dependent on?
Myself. My happiness is up to me!
What do you wish you were less reliant on?
My phone. I used to leave it at home often, because I liked the forced disconnect, but it feels like I should have it on me now having a baby. So, I try to be intentional about limiting time on it, but I don’t do nearly as well as I’d like. I could do with a lot less social media, googling every question I have, and being able to be contacted 24/7.
When do you question yourself?
Not much anymore. I try to be as tapped into my intuition as I can and trust my gut. I know I do my best in the moment and learn what I can for the future.
Actually, though, when I am really sleep deprived, I lose that and spiral a bit.
What is something that has positively impacted how you perceive your self-worth?
Becoming a mum. I feel such a deep sense of purpose.
What is something you have forgiven yourself for?
I lied so much throughout my elementary and teen years. My mother is a compulsive liar, and it rubbed off on me (I'm not trying to place blame). I didn’t even really become fully aware of it until my mid-teens. I fabricated when there was no reason to. It’s so embarrassing and frustrating to think of how many friendships I’ve missed out on. But I can’t dwell on it anymore; it kills me.
Honesty is so important to me as an adult, and I want to emphasize it to my children.
What is something you have forgiven someone else for?
My parents, for not being good role models, making a lot of extremely questionable decisions and ultimately giving me a difficult upbringing.
Forgiven, but not forgotten.
How do you ground/center yourself?
Walking. If I’m feeling off, a good walk in the fresh air will bring me right back.
What is one thing that helped you through your most difficult time?
For some reason, I keep coming back to wanting to say alcohol on this one. But it’s a deep, double-edged sword. It got me through my most difficult time, but only because it numbed me. After I had let it be my vice for too long and I hit my version of the bottom, it was the catalyst of really positive changes in my life.
My yoga and meditation practices have also always been there for me. Shout out to hot rooms and sound baths - so healing.
Have you ever felt like the best version of yourself? When?
Right now, and for the past 11 months. Being a mum.
What is something you fundamentally disagree with?
That you have to deal with or owe your family anything solely because they are your family.
I accepted a lot of toxic behavior for far too long because I was raised to believe we had to put up with anything family did because “they are family.” Just that line is so triggering to me; I’ve heard it so much in my life.
It wasn’t until I met my husband that I realized, "Oh, you don’t let people treat you like that, even if you’re related?" Okay, interesting. It blew my mind, honestly. But yeah, being family doesn’t give you a free pass. Relationships and access to me are not your right.
What is something you know for sure?
You are the person who creates your life.
What are three of your non-negotiables in romantic relationships?
1. Consideration. Always.
2. Shared sense of humor. I love to laugh and make people laugh.
3. Honesty
When do you feel most comfortable in your own skin?
After a good workout or yoga class followed by a hot shower.
And when I’m with my husband. He makes me feel so comfortable and loved.
Have you ever been in awe of something/someone? When?
Many times, in many different parts of the world.
Nepal comes to mind, and the people I encountered there. It was right after the earthquake in 2015, and they were also experiencing a fuel crisis. They were going through so much, but everyone was… so kind, optimistic, grateful, apologetic, and genuine. I left humbled and wanting to be a better person.
What is one thing you wish you had said ‘yes’ to in the past?
More trips with girlfriends, especially my best friend. We talked about many adventures but didn’t act on many of them. I know the opportunity will come back in a later season of life though, so I look forward to that.
What is one thing you will always say ‘no’ to in the future?
Anything for the sake of pleasing people! At least, I hope to. It’s hard to unlearn.
What do you believe is your most attractive quality?
My energy. I love to really listen to people, what they have to say as well as their body language, so they feel at ease.
What/who do you want to be when you grow up?
A good mum! A person my kids and husband love to be around and share their lives with.
Joyful. Peaceful.
BONUS: Tell me something good.
We just booked a trip to Europe in the spring! I love travelling with my husband and now we get to share those experiences with our baby. I’m so excited.
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