Age: 24
Relationship Status: partnered
Occupation: Program Manager
Income: 54k annually
Astrological Sign: Gemini sun, Scorpio moon, and Pisces rising
What is the most important part of your daily routine?
I enjoy my slow mornings at home, cuddling with my cats in bed, making my espresso, showering, maybe writing or reading, and cooking a good breakfast.
What is your current happiness most dependent on?
My job takes a lot of my mental energy, so making sure I’m getting alone time when I clock out to pour into my own cup before I pour into others
What do you wish you were less reliant on?
My need and desire for alone time. At times it scares me how okay I am with being alone. I work from home, so at times, I will go days without seeing anyone in person, and I’m comfortable with that.
When do you question yourself?
At work because I manage a contract and sometimes, I feel so young - too young. Imposter syndrome at its finest! Also, in my romantic relationship. It’s my first relationship, and I worry I’m not good at being in a relationship because I haven’t learned how to let someone in like this before. It’s really hard for me to do.
What is something that has positively impacted how you perceive your self-worth?
Honestly, getting older! I think I’m really starting to learn how to embrace all different parts of myself and all past versions. Now, more than ever, I know what I deserve, and settling is not an option.
What is something you have forgiven yourself for?
It’s still hard, but I value how much men desire me. In my first year of college, I thought I was empowering myself by hooking up with guys I now know didn’t care about me in the way I thought and wanted them to. I wanted to feel wanted, and I think I showed myself conditional love at times.
What is something you have forgiven someone else for?
I’m not sure I’ve ever made a full-blown decision to forgive… I don’t think I’ve ever been slighted badly enough to have something to forgive someone for. People have hurt my feelings and have said and done horrible things, but after I let myself feel the emotions surrounding what happened and let time pass, I no longer care about the person or what they said/did. If it’s something where someone has done something truly malicious or hurtful, then I tend to distance myself from those people and remove them from my life.
How do you ground/center yourself?
I set down my phone, take some really big deep breaths, journal to help sort my thoughts, and cuddle with my cats—I believe animals are healing.
What is one thing that helped you through your most difficult time?
Having a true belief that everything happens as it’s meant to and that I will always, always be okay.
Have you ever felt like the best version of yourself? When?
I think there are times when I have felt like the best version of myself, but then time passes, and I think the next version of myself is the best version of myself. At the end of the day, I think I’m continuously evolving, and all versions of myself are so important because they have helped shape who I am today. That being said, I do think there are versions of myself that have been happier and healthier.
What is something you fundamentally disagree with?
Organized religion, privatizing public education, exploiting the earth, treating people less than because of their sexuality, skin color, etc. I guess…think of who is in office for the USA’s federal administration- I strongly disagree with them and their policies.
What is something you know for sure?
My mom is my soulmate. She’s my best friend, and our souls have been together many times in the past.
What are three of your non-negotiables in romantic relationships?
Acceptance
Independence
Growth
When do you feel most comfortable in your own skin?
Hmm, that’s hard for me. That question makes me think of my physical body, and as cheesy or sad as it may sound, I don't know if I’ve ever felt totally comfortable in my own skin. I do think where I’m at now, though, I feel the most self-assured I ever have, and I feel confident in who I am and who I’m becoming.
Have you ever been in awe of something/someone? When?
My mom. When she was in the hospital due to a brain tumor, I spent 2 weeks with her, just us for the most part, in Seattle while a team of doctors planned her surgery and treatment. Her resilience and her ability to find peace and acceptance that she could die were indescribable. The grace she carried through the whole thing and her ability to be vulnerable yet calm was amazing. I have no words other than she’s the strongest person I know.
What is the best (physical/material) gift you have ever received?
I think the espresso machine I just got for Christmas.
What is one thing you wish you had said ‘yes’ to in the past?
I’m not sure there is anything! If I were to go back and change something, I could potentially not be where I am today.
What is one thing you will always say ‘no’ to in the future?
Doing things only for other people or that harm my peace and happiness.
What do you believe is your most attractive quality?
My hair, physically. My compassion, empathy, and kindness otherwise
What/who do you want to be when you grow up?
I want to be content with who I am, self-assured, and someone who continues to care about other people, the world, and animals.
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