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#229. becoming a mom, being that girl & having another child

Writer's picture: Devyn Penney Devyn Penney



Age: 32

Relationship Status: Married

Occupation: Property Manager

Income: $115,000

Astrological Sign: Aquarius


What is the most important part of your daily routine?

Prayer. I absolutely do not get out of bed without praying.


What is your current happiness most dependent on?

I might get some backlash on this, but my child. I know they say moms should put themselves first and that when you are happy, you are a better parent to your child. I agree with this, but all BS aside, there is no better feeling than seeing my child every morning when I come home from work, and there is absolutely nothing that can ruin my day quicker than something bad happening to my child.


What do you wish you were less reliant on?

Opinions of others. I struggle a lot with this. I always need a second opinion and feel the need to vent when things go wrong. A 2025 goal of mine is to learn to lean on myself more. The reality is everybody does not need to know everything, regardless of how close they are to you.


When do you question yourself?

Hmm I guess this goes with the previous question. I question myself a lot more than I would like, especially when it involves others. Hoping to change this in 2025.


What is something that has positively impacted how you perceive your self-worth?

My accomplishments. Becoming a Mom; I really do think Moms are not appreciated enough. Going through pregnancy, pushing out a whole human, and postpartum. All while juggling my career. I am who I think I am: THAT GIRL!


What is something you have forgiven yourself for?

Letting people take advantage of me when I was younger to feel a temporary sense of peace. Older me wouldn’t even entertain such BS now. But I guess you live and learn.


What is something you have forgiven someone else for?

Taking advantage of me. It is what it is. Life moves on.


How do you ground/center yourself?

Music. Something about music settles my mind.


What is one thing that helped you through your most difficult time?

Prayer and fasting. I am nothing without God.


Have you ever felt like the best version of yourself? When?

To be quite honest, I don’t think I’ve lived long enough to know the best version of myself. I can easily say when I’m doing mom, wife, or boss things, but I really do think it means more to being the best version of myself. I do have contentment in knowing that as long as I am doing my best every day, I am a step closer to knowing the best version of myself, and who knows? Maybe doing my best every day in every area of my life is the best version of myself.


What is something you fundamentally disagree with?

Love at first sight. How can you love someone you don’t know? You can appreciate qualities about them but love?? It is an absolute stretch.


What is something you know for sure?

Everything always works out for the better, you just gotta ride the wave.


What are three of your non-negotiables in romantic relationships?

  1. Not checking in with me. As your partner, if anything were to happen to you, I would be the first person they reach out to, so imagine not knowing?

  2. Not celebrating birthdays and anniversaries. It doesn’t have to be grand but remembering is very important. You could get me $10 flowers for all I care but the thought is all that matters.

  3. Unprovoked lies—In romantic relationships and any relationship in general, nothing will make me cut you off faster than unprovoked lies.


When do you feel most comfortable in your own skin?

At night, no makeup, no bra, PJs, and a glass of wine in my hand.


Have you ever been in awe of something/someone? When?

Yes, my child. I look at him every day, and I feel so privileged that he chose me to be his mom. I really thought I knew what love was until I had him. He is literally my heart in human form, and I don’t take being his mom for granted.


What is the best (physical/material) gift you have ever received?

I can’t think of one specifically but honestly any gift from my husband. He does an amazing job listening to me mention things I want or need randomly. Most of the time I forget I even said I wanted/needed it and then randomly he shows up with it. I truly appreciate those gifts because they remind me of how much he loves and listens to me.


What is one thing you wish you had said ‘yes’ to in the past?

Switching majors to business or accounting in college. I was in such a hurry to graduate I went for the easiest thing. Also, choosing to go to a more expensive college when I had a full ride to a school with less merit. Years later, I can tell you that unless you go to an Ivy League, the school you go to does not matter. Now I’m stuck with student loans.


What is one thing you will always say ‘no’ to in the future?

Anything that jeopardizes my child in any way, shape, or form is always going to be a no in my book.


What do you believe is your most attractive quality?

My sense of humor. Life is just not that deep.


What/who do you want to be when you grow up?

A successful wife and mom who has an amazing career.


BONUS: Tell me something good.

Life is amazing, and it is what you make of it. Live in the moment instead of the future and I promise, life really does get better.


Random Thought: Before today, I struggled with knowing whether I wanted a second child or to focus on my career. But answering these questions made me realize how much fulfillment I get from being a mom, and I would have so much regret in the future picking my career over having another child. A slight halt in my career won’t hurt. Thank you.

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